Defense is only good when you are playing basket ball or some king of sport...right? or is it also good in matters of the heart...? After a failed relationship doesn't it seem normal that people proceed with caution when getting in a new relationship? Someone recently told me that they get in a relationship with someone and think that they are "the one". Who is better off in this situation ? the person that plays defensively or the one that jumps in ? This there a middle ground here? And if so who has the map and can someone fax that to me..!!!??? For you guys that are married or have been with someone for a long time...how did you know that that particular person was the one that you could trust with the most important thing you have, your heart?