Dollars and sense
Why is it that people change so much when they start making a little money?? They change the way they act, the way the represent them selves, the way they talk to you...? I have no idea why but it makes people crazy. I know of plenty of people that change just cause their account has grown a little. But the funny thing is that since I see so many people everyday, the people that I remember the most and that I remember the names of are people that have treated me nicely, friendly and honestly, not just because they may have a large balance. Because the balance on an account is a temporary thing and can change just as feelings and emotions. I know people just want to be liked and admired buy others but how much is too much?? A big house they can't afford? a nice car you look good in but makes you wish you had a microscope at the end of the month to see the balance in your account??...All I'm saying is that just cause you have it today doesn't mean you will have it tomorrow and we need to stop letting the things that we have DEFINE who we are...because all of us are people and people are never defined by what you have, what defines you is your character and how you treat people...
Thursday, June 10, 2010
*Origanally Posted 03-24-2006
Top Ten Reason that Guys Don't & Shouldn't Call Girls Back
Oh yeah read the disclaimer before proceeding because I don't want hate mail!!!! If you happen to fall in to these characteristics my bad I didn't mean to call you out... but maybe you shouldn't be looking at this because girls are getting wise to your short comings here...Basically GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER!!!
10).They are gay and in denial (denial not just another river in Egypt!)
9).You make more money than they do (insecurity)
8).They are in love/interested with/in someone else
7).They still live with their parents and don't have shit going on in their life
6).They just want to have fun right now
5).They are on parole
4).They "just" got out of a relationship
3).They are registered sex offenders
2).They are married and their wife IS the jealous type.
1). They just weren't that into you- (Sex in the City)
The good news is that there are "GOOD" guys out there (Carlos I can attest to is one of them) It's just really really hard to find them. When I figure out where they hang out I will be the first to post a bulletin. I hope I put a smile on you all faces!
Oh yeah read the disclaimer before proceeding because I don't want hate mail!!!! If you happen to fall in to these characteristics my bad I didn't mean to call you out... but maybe you shouldn't be looking at this because girls are getting wise to your short comings here...Basically GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER!!!
10).They are gay and in denial (denial not just another river in Egypt!)
9).You make more money than they do (insecurity)
8).They are in love/interested with/in someone else
7).They still live with their parents and don't have shit going on in their life
6).They just want to have fun right now
5).They are on parole
4).They "just" got out of a relationship
3).They are registered sex offenders
2).They are married and their wife IS the jealous type.
1). They just weren't that into you- (Sex in the City)
The good news is that there are "GOOD" guys out there (Carlos I can attest to is one of them) It's just really really hard to find them. When I figure out where they hang out I will be the first to post a bulletin. I hope I put a smile on you all faces!
*Originally posted 03-22-2006 5:52pm
For richer or poorer
Why is it that some girls ask -what can this guy give me when they are talking to a new potential partner in a relationship? Instead of asking what can WE make of this relationship? I know a lot of girls that the first thing they think is what can I get out of this guy? well that is why guys will never take you seriously because genuine care can never be faked. I don't care how good of an actress you are you can't fain things like that. Plus what comes around goes around. Another thing ( I'm about to get on my soap box about this so look out!) Why are those girls not trying to do for themselves?? There is such a sense of satisfaction when you know that the only person that helped you was God. I'm not trying to take anything away from guys or anything because guys are great ( I'm not saying I don't like getting presents but there is a difference between being surprised with something and expecting it or demanding it) I always tell people I don't NEED a man to buy me things. I can buy whatever I want but I can't buy love. TRUE LOVE and that is what I want. So going into a relationship I don't look for what someone can give me because I know that the best thing in life are free, a smile, a phone call (t-mobile people only...lol), a hug and kiss (and a WAMU account hint hint everybody...hehehe)...etc. And maybe some people need to start thinking that money and things come and go but people are indispensable...
Why is it that some girls ask -what can this guy give me when they are talking to a new potential partner in a relationship? Instead of asking what can WE make of this relationship? I know a lot of girls that the first thing they think is what can I get out of this guy? well that is why guys will never take you seriously because genuine care can never be faked. I don't care how good of an actress you are you can't fain things like that. Plus what comes around goes around. Another thing ( I'm about to get on my soap box about this so look out!) Why are those girls not trying to do for themselves?? There is such a sense of satisfaction when you know that the only person that helped you was God. I'm not trying to take anything away from guys or anything because guys are great ( I'm not saying I don't like getting presents but there is a difference between being surprised with something and expecting it or demanding it) I always tell people I don't NEED a man to buy me things. I can buy whatever I want but I can't buy love. TRUE LOVE and that is what I want. So going into a relationship I don't look for what someone can give me because I know that the best thing in life are free, a smile, a phone call (t-mobile people only...lol), a hug and kiss (and a WAMU account hint hint everybody...hehehe)...etc. And maybe some people need to start thinking that money and things come and go but people are indispensable...
*Originally Posted 03-21-2006 1:27pm
You can call me Charlotte
If anyone knows me just a little they know that I love Sex In the City, and thanks to Carlos who gave it to me for my birthday (thank you Carlos) I have the binder, (stop hating Melissa). Anyway I was hanging out with my friends this weekend and we were talking about who was like what character in the show. Someone who will remain nameless pegged her self as Samantha. I was pegged as Charlotte. Well, I was like why? even though I know why- because of what I believe. But I wanted to know why they thought I was like her character. They said because I'm conservative (their word for boring). But you know what I believe in a lot of things. I believe in God. I believe that God has a plan for everything and everyone. Everything that happens is for the better till it's time to meet Him so I always put my life in His hands. I believe that love can concur almost everything in combination with communication, friendship, respect, understanding, and honesty. I believe in family. I believe in MY family. Through their imperfections I feel the love they show me. I believe in hard work like that saying goes everything worth having is worth fighting for. I work hard for what I have and will continue to keep working hard for what I want. And I believe in the pursuit of happiness. There is someone that values what I value and I know God will help me find him if I haven't already. So if Charlotte is what I am, then yes I accept it and damn proud to be that, too.
If anyone knows me just a little they know that I love Sex In the City, and thanks to Carlos who gave it to me for my birthday (thank you Carlos) I have the binder, (stop hating Melissa). Anyway I was hanging out with my friends this weekend and we were talking about who was like what character in the show. Someone who will remain nameless pegged her self as Samantha. I was pegged as Charlotte. Well, I was like why? even though I know why- because of what I believe. But I wanted to know why they thought I was like her character. They said because I'm conservative (their word for boring). But you know what I believe in a lot of things. I believe in God. I believe that God has a plan for everything and everyone. Everything that happens is for the better till it's time to meet Him so I always put my life in His hands. I believe that love can concur almost everything in combination with communication, friendship, respect, understanding, and honesty. I believe in family. I believe in MY family. Through their imperfections I feel the love they show me. I believe in hard work like that saying goes everything worth having is worth fighting for. I work hard for what I have and will continue to keep working hard for what I want. And I believe in the pursuit of happiness. There is someone that values what I value and I know God will help me find him if I haven't already. So if Charlotte is what I am, then yes I accept it and damn proud to be that, too.
*Originally Posted 03-17-2006 5:07am
Defense
Defense is only good when you are playing basket ball or some king of sport...right? or is it also good in matters of the heart...? After a failed relationship doesn't it seem normal that people proceed with caution when getting in a new relationship? Someone recently told me that they get in a relationship with someone and think that they are "the one". Who is better off in this situation ? the person that plays defensively or the one that jumps in ? This there a middle ground here? And if so who has the map and can someone fax that to me..!!!??? For you guys that are married or have been with someone for a long time...how did you know that that particular person was the one that you could trust with the most important thing you have, your heart?
Defense is only good when you are playing basket ball or some king of sport...right? or is it also good in matters of the heart...? After a failed relationship doesn't it seem normal that people proceed with caution when getting in a new relationship? Someone recently told me that they get in a relationship with someone and think that they are "the one". Who is better off in this situation ? the person that plays defensively or the one that jumps in ? This there a middle ground here? And if so who has the map and can someone fax that to me..!!!??? For you guys that are married or have been with someone for a long time...how did you know that that particular person was the one that you could trust with the most important thing you have, your heart?
*Originally Posted 03-13-2006 9:56pm
Playing catch up
How much time is enough to let your heart catch up with your brain? Sometimes we may find ourselves in a friendship or a relationship where you know it's not going anywhere...it maybe because of something that you have no ability to change. In that case your brain has already come to a conclusion and has seen the end to things. So in that instance your heart is trying to catch up with what your brain and your mind already know. But why is it so hard to let go? Why is your heart so stubborn? How much time will your heart need to be able to give as much as you did before? Will you ever find someone like them? where you knew they cared about who you are and never tried to change things about you...I guess sometimes leaving it alone raises less questions. I know everyone is different , some people need more time to be able to care about someone either if it was a friendship or a relationship. For me, I need time to get over the fact that I am losing someone that means so much and that I can trust.
How much time is enough to let your heart catch up with your brain? Sometimes we may find ourselves in a friendship or a relationship where you know it's not going anywhere...it maybe because of something that you have no ability to change. In that case your brain has already come to a conclusion and has seen the end to things. So in that instance your heart is trying to catch up with what your brain and your mind already know. But why is it so hard to let go? Why is your heart so stubborn? How much time will your heart need to be able to give as much as you did before? Will you ever find someone like them? where you knew they cared about who you are and never tried to change things about you...I guess sometimes leaving it alone raises less questions. I know everyone is different , some people need more time to be able to care about someone either if it was a friendship or a relationship. For me, I need time to get over the fact that I am losing someone that means so much and that I can trust.
*Originally Posted 02-28-2006 5:26am
Addicted to Pain?
Why are we so used to abuse? I have come across people that are so used to abuse that when they actually find someone that treats them right it's like they can't believe it...they want people to treat them like crap because they feel at home with drama. DRAMA, DRAMA, DRAMA....When are people going to start knowing what they are worth and start expecting the best?? Be optimistic... and what could happen? that you could be happy for a change...? and if it doesn't go well then say good bye, wish them well and move on. Like I always say your needs and wants are not always the same. What you want may not be what you need and what you need is not always what you want. So the point is that we should be more open to change...change the way you expect to be treated. Most of the time the reason that someone treats you wrong is because you let them treat you like crap. Be strong, grow a spine and don't let people treat you like that. ( I have been know to be mean at times and to be honest it was all because I knew I could - sorry Carlos) And when you find someone that treats you right don't let them go because if you do it will be your loss.
Why are we so used to abuse? I have come across people that are so used to abuse that when they actually find someone that treats them right it's like they can't believe it...they want people to treat them like crap because they feel at home with drama. DRAMA, DRAMA, DRAMA....When are people going to start knowing what they are worth and start expecting the best?? Be optimistic... and what could happen? that you could be happy for a change...? and if it doesn't go well then say good bye, wish them well and move on. Like I always say your needs and wants are not always the same. What you want may not be what you need and what you need is not always what you want. So the point is that we should be more open to change...change the way you expect to be treated. Most of the time the reason that someone treats you wrong is because you let them treat you like crap. Be strong, grow a spine and don't let people treat you like that. ( I have been know to be mean at times and to be honest it was all because I knew I could - sorry Carlos) And when you find someone that treats you right don't let them go because if you do it will be your loss.
*Originally Posted* 02-25-2006 2:18am
Keep'n On
We are the sum of our experiences.... some of us know how to deal with stress, life, problems, losses, gains, feelings, emotions... better than others. I think I'm pretty grounded for the most part and at 26 I have made the best of what God has given me. About two years ago I had a BAD experience that changed my life forever. I will never be the same, I also have the scars to prove it. But I will not let that change the way that I LIVE my life, well actually maybe I will. Because of that I will try to not let little things get me down or let people that don't know who I really am keep me from enjoying life. I will always be just me nothing more nothing less. Yes I have bad days too...like everyone else but at the end of those days I know I'm alive, I have my health and I have my family and friends and nothing that I say or do will change that fact that I will ALWAYS have God on my side. Like I said we are the some of our experiences...
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I was taking time out to count my blessing
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We are the sum of our experiences.... some of us know how to deal with stress, life, problems, losses, gains, feelings, emotions... better than others. I think I'm pretty grounded for the most part and at 26 I have made the best of what God has given me. About two years ago I had a BAD experience that changed my life forever. I will never be the same, I also have the scars to prove it. But I will not let that change the way that I LIVE my life, well actually maybe I will. Because of that I will try to not let little things get me down or let people that don't know who I really am keep me from enjoying life. I will always be just me nothing more nothing less. Yes I have bad days too...like everyone else but at the end of those days I know I'm alive, I have my health and I have my family and friends and nothing that I say or do will change that fact that I will ALWAYS have God on my side. Like I said we are the some of our experiences...
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I was taking time out to count my blessing
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*Originally posted* 02-19-2006
Observation
Has is ever happened to you that someone you never ever knew can say something (good or bad) that can make you evaluate your life in such a way that you can question your purpose? It doesn't happen often but when it does you never forget that moment and worse when it happens to someone you know (it also hurts to know u can't do or say anything for them not to hurt) and it changes your view of them completely...what is up is down and what is down is up...interesting weekend is all I have to say.
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Someone had said something to one of my friends and caused them to evaluate their whole life
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Has is ever happened to you that someone you never ever knew can say something (good or bad) that can make you evaluate your life in such a way that you can question your purpose? It doesn't happen often but when it does you never forget that moment and worse when it happens to someone you know (it also hurts to know u can't do or say anything for them not to hurt) and it changes your view of them completely...what is up is down and what is down is up...interesting weekend is all I have to say.
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Someone had said something to one of my friends and caused them to evaluate their whole life
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*Originally Posted* 02-16-2006 12:40am
Fantacy Vs Reality
Would you rather live in a fantasy world or admit the truth and move on ( i.e. reality)?
I guess it would depend on the subject, right? I mean if we are talking about relationships for me it's reality all the way...I am a firm believer that if something isn't working then you should try to be happy with someone else or at least by yourself than to waist your time (and theirs). I guess it comes from all the things that happened to me in my life. Time is one thing I can't afford to lose...
But if we are talking about a terminally ill sickness then I say where are the Vicodin when I need them???!!!…..JK
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This was about someone I knew being with some that they knew from the begging it was not going to work out but they still tried to make it work for years and they were just wasting their time in my opion.
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Would you rather live in a fantasy world or admit the truth and move on ( i.e. reality)?
I guess it would depend on the subject, right? I mean if we are talking about relationships for me it's reality all the way...I am a firm believer that if something isn't working then you should try to be happy with someone else or at least by yourself than to waist your time (and theirs). I guess it comes from all the things that happened to me in my life. Time is one thing I can't afford to lose...
But if we are talking about a terminally ill sickness then I say where are the Vicodin when I need them???!!!…..JK
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This was about someone I knew being with some that they knew from the begging it was not going to work out but they still tried to make it work for years and they were just wasting their time in my opion.
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Wednesday, June 9, 2010
**Disclaimer**
I have had my original blog for many years already, about things that happen to my friends and I, this blog will be about a combination of my personal blog and my beauty channel on my Youtube. (shinningstarx) I will re-post many of my the original blogs (that are appropriate) and the original date in which they were posted. I think in your life you are bound to change from when you are young as you grew older and hopefully wiser so dates are important. Sometimes this blog will make you laugh and sometimes I just aspire to work things out in a written way just cause I think it helps me work things out in my mind(if that makes any sense). Another thing sometimes I say "we" and when I say that I mean myself included. By no means do I think what I do is the complete right thing to do and keep in my what I do may not be what I was intending to do or say as far as the action in my past. We all have regrets but the thing is that we have the ability to learn so just take try to learn from my mistakes because I have made a few. So go allow for the ride as I hope to make you laugh on the out side and think on the inside.** Thanks for reading an following. (Oh on a side note , I am a bad speller and I most of the time I have no idea where the commas and semicolons go so don't mind that- having said that I still manage to get my point across. :P )
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